Why does this keep happening?! One might grumble in utter frustration at finding themselves yet again, in an unwanted situation. But instead of taking out your frustration by breaking 500 pencils individually, what if we reframed the question a bit? Why do I keep making the choices that lead me to this very spot? Now, will this reframe make you feel all warm and fuzzy inside? No. Accountability can be rough. But it beats the hell out of powerlessness.