Do you voice your needs? If you’ve grown up in a calm loving environment you may not even fully understand this concept. Uh, sure I do! But if you haven’t, if your feelings were ignored or used against you, this can be very tricky. Every time you are honest in a conflict situation you open yourself up to being rejected. But if you keep quiet, if you shove it down in an attempt to keep the peace, you may succeed. But it will be in exchange for your own peace.